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Oct. 26th, 2005 01:48 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
anomic_blueseriously, when you have children- be firm with them as to limitations.
my parents were not, i could ALWAYS negotiate my way around or out of a solid "no". and i know i have this fucked up idea that i can negotiate anything now, so far its worked out all right in terms of my everyday survival- but its not an okay way to live. i find myself trying to negotiate things that i can't, and things that i SHOULDN'T even be TRYING to.
and then, when i fail, instead of recognizing the obvious impossibility i immediately assume there must have been a flaw in my arguement, and set about thinking of a better one. and thats just crazy.
how annoying.
its amazing how many things i can figure out a way to explain by means of my lackluster upbringing. though you know, i accept total responsibility for being this stupid as an adult.
not everything is shades of grey you know, some things really are just black and white.
my parents were not, i could ALWAYS negotiate my way around or out of a solid "no". and i know i have this fucked up idea that i can negotiate anything now, so far its worked out all right in terms of my everyday survival- but its not an okay way to live. i find myself trying to negotiate things that i can't, and things that i SHOULDN'T even be TRYING to.
and then, when i fail, instead of recognizing the obvious impossibility i immediately assume there must have been a flaw in my arguement, and set about thinking of a better one. and thats just crazy.
how annoying.
its amazing how many things i can figure out a way to explain by means of my lackluster upbringing. though you know, i accept total responsibility for being this stupid as an adult.
not everything is shades of grey you know, some things really are just black and white.
